Depending on the carrier, your phone number may be blocked if you call and it rings once, there’s a persistent beeping, or you get a busy line. On some social media sites, there’s no way to know if they’ve blocked you or simply deleted their profile. Try searching for them online when you’re logged out of your account. If they don’t show up, they deleted the profile.
It’s reasonable to want answers, but confronting someone or demanding that they talk to you is unlikely to get you what you want. Examine your recent online or in person behavior with the person who blocked you. Did you write or comment about something that went against the person’s beliefs, viewpoint, or philosophy? Objectively look into your own online behavior to examine whether or not you offended that person.
If they’re a lifelong friend or partner, you’re justified to want to know more. In a situation like this, it’s okay to investigate and figure out what happened here. On the rare off-chance that they’re playing games with you and the block is only temporary, you’re still better off not engaging.
Don’t get down in the dumps over this kind of thing. Some people just don’t have the respect to be straight up.
This is extremely likely to be the case if they’ve blocked and unblocked you before. If the two of you weren’t fighting, it’s possible they were offended by something you said or did. It’s still best to wait a while for them to cool off. Find a way to accept this if you cannot change it. When we cannot change the course of events this can plague us. By practicing acceptance and embracing that it cannot be changed, you might be able to let it go and move forward.
There’s an adage that if your ex blocks you, you won. This means that if you want to “get back” at them, you’ve already done the best you can do. You either win because you get to move on, or you win because you’re such a powerful source in their life that they can’t bear to even see you online.
Ask them to keep your request on the down low for best results. You might ask, “Hey, Melissa blocked me and I can’t figure out what I did wrong. Could you ask her the next time you see her? Just play it off like you’re curious. ”
This is an especially reasonable idea if you were in a long-term relationship with the person and things ended kind of abruptly. You could write a letter to apologize, ask where you went wrong, beg them to take you back, or reflect on your time together. There are no right or wrong answers; it depends on what you want to tell them. Ask yourself if you could have done or said anything differently and determine if an apology is necessary. Is there a way you could have conveyed your viewpoint differently? Play with ways you could have said it better. Do not send dozens of letters. It’s going to send the wrong vibe, and at a certain point it’s unfair to their wishes.
If you really find yourself stressing and constantly reminiscing over photos and trinkets, give them to a friend and tell them to hold onto them for you. At least for a little while.
If possible, give yourself a month-long break. 30 days is usually enough to really process your feelings and get back to your old self.
Go outside, as much as you possibly can. You’re going to be more likely to want to reach out to them or check in on their social media accounts if you’re at home alone. Also, you’ll just feel better if you’re active.
Whatever it is in life that makes you feel fulfilled and focused, do that. Recognize that it’s perfectly normal to feel hurt for a while, especially if you dated this person for a while. Treat this as a learning opportunity—take what you can from the relationship or interaction, then move on. If you did something wrong, you can find ways to atone by volunteering for a charity, sending out loving kindness and forgiveness, and choosing to make healthy and positive choices moving forward.
This can seem like a really tall order, but if you two are meant to be (or meant to be friends), waiting a few months to a year may be worth it.
